Positive Discipline
Being parents is a task in which we often realise that we are not as well prepared as we thought we were, which is why in the centre CIPS Malaga we are interested in publicising innovative alternatives for your children's educationas is the Positive Discipline.
The idea of being parents that we had does not fit the reality of our daily lives. When we receive the news that we are going to be parents, we often consult books written by paediatricians, psychologists or other professionals to help us deal in the best way with this big step we are taking in our lives.
We aim to be the best parents we can be However, when tense situations arise in our daily lives, we often react in a very instinctive and emotional way. These reactions can be overreactive and put us at risk of losing control of ourselves. and running the risk of forgetting that the person in front of us is our child. This is how shouting, humiliation, blackmail, threats and punishments arise..
In order to manage changes in our how to educate our childrenIt is not enough to want to do it. We need tools to help us in this task. This is where positive discipline can help us.
What is positive discipline?
The positive discipline is a education model which allows us to improve and establish good communication with our children while addressing unwanted behaviour. Positive discipline gives parents guidelines and guidance to improve their children's behaviour, teaches children to behave better, acquire responsibility and develop interpersonal skills through values such as generosity, patience and mutual respect.
What is the origin of positive discipline?
Positive discipline has its origins in the individual psychology studies of Austrian psychiatrist Alfred Adler in 1920 and his disciple Austrian psychiatrist and educator Rudolf Dreikurs in the 1930s, and was systematised by American psychologist and educator Jane Nelsen in 1981.
What positive discipline is NOT
The positive discipline is NOT permissive parenting.It is NOT about letting our children do whatever they want, and it is NOT about not having rules and boundaries in our family.
What IS positive discipline
The positive discipline is finding solutions that allow our child to develop self-disciplinelearning to clearly communicate rules and boundaries, adjusting expectations, and developing a mutually respectful relationship with children. It is to teach them skills that will be useful throughout their lives (respect, problem-solving skills, collaboration, responsibility, participation, etc.), to increase our children's capacity and self-confidence in the face of life's challenges, and to teach them values (courtesy, empathy, self-esteem, non-violence, human rights and respect for others).
Objective of Positive Discipline
The objective of Positive Discipline is that our children understand the rules and limits setWe can also use Positive Discipline to help our children understand that they must take responsibility for their actions and decisions without damaging their self-image. Positive Discipline can help our children to understand that they must take responsibility for their actions and decisions without damaging their self-image.
How to educate using Positive Discipline
It should start with understanding and analysis as a starting point. It is important to study your child's behaviour in order to understand why he/she is behaving the way he/she is and what emotions he/she is experiencing. Once the cause of the behaviour has been identified, it is time to implement tools and strategies focused on the specific resolution of each situation. In this way the strategy will not focus on finding a culprit, but a solution.
It is important to give children the opportunity to make mistakes without overprotecting them, as this will allow them to feel valuable while they learn to develop communication and emotional management skills.
Rules and routines are essential because they will reduce undesirable behaviours and facilitate the improvement of others. One of the strategies proposed by positive discipline to improve potential conflicts that may arise in everyday life is to offer your child the opportunity to choose between several behavioural options and thus help to strengthen his or her decision-making capacity.
Last but not least, we must value the language we use as parents. As parents, we must act with care in our words and non-verbal communication, trying not to lose control of the situation and being the best positive role model for our child at all times. It is important to remember that children constantly observe their parents, and copy all behaviours that catch their attention. It is important to be cautious.
Where can you find experts in Positive Discipline therapy?
You can find us at Centro Clínico Integral Psiquiátrico (CIPS Málaga) in the city of Malaga. The Centro Clínico Integral Psiquiátrico (CIPS Málaga) is a clinical centre with 21 years of experience treating people in psychiatry and psychology consultations, and with more than 15,000 patients attended throughout these 21 years.
The Comprehensive Clinical Psychiatric Centre (CIPS Malaga) is made up of a highly specialised team of psychiatrists and psychologists, who attend to all types of needs in the area of psychiatry and psychology.
CIPS Malaga has an area of Child and Youth Psychology and Family Psychology, where, among other therapies, Positive Discipline therapy is offered.
